Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Isn’t it Time We Pick Ourselves?

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When the teacher asked questions, most of the students raised their hands. The ambitious or popular students were usually chosen first to respond with the answer. This situation took place often, throughout the day. If you were selected and didn’t respond with the correct answer, good luck being picked again, anytime soon .
The subtle message was :
1.   You weren’t popular.

2.   The teacher didn’t trust your judgment.

3.   What you thought didn’t matter.
During the summer before a basketball game, it was common for the two most popular and gifted athletes to choose their teams from a select group. The decision to choose the most gifted athletes would be chosen first, usually followed by choosing the most popular or friends of the person doing the picking. Being one of the last two possible selections indicated you weren’t valued as much and if there was any hesitancy as who to choose it didn’t speak well for either of you. Being the last player selected meant you were “stuck” (no pick for you) on one of the team’s roster.
Being last meant:
1.   You weren’t very good.

2.   You weren’t very popular.

3.   You weren’t really wanted.
The same process appears throughout your career in lieu of promotions, positions, hiring and lay-offs. It’s all part of the same system of the Industrial Age. Instead of recognizing and nurturing individuals strength we follow the same rules rewarding the gifted, popular and our friends, while ignoring the rest. For 100 years, it was the only way to ensure fitting-in, compliance and conformity.
Not anymore.
Picking yourself is all that matters. Artists always pick themselves; they don’t wait for permission, acceptance or a christening. We always felt artists were strange, different or didn’t quite fit-in. Artists aren’t concerned with the status quo, survey results or a spreadsheet, their focus is strictly on their core mission .
It's no coincidence artists are the catalyst of change. The system refers to those people as inventors, however; they were artists first and foremost. Ford, Gates or Edison didn’t form a consensus group, become elected or chosen by anyone. Picasso, Tchaikovsky, Dylan and Symon picked themselves. Some said they were crazy and wasting their time, but their determination to succeed came from within.
 Art touches our lives, inspires movements and forges technology.
As we sit on the cusp of change in the post-industrial revolution- isn’t it time we pick ourselves?
 Until We Meet Again,
 Jim Carver
Author: The Legacy of David A. Wells- The Lexington High School “Band of Gold”
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    1. It is hard to shake off the notion that "if only someone would pick me." I've recently crossed over a barrier of needing to get picked and am swimming the the pool of new dreams. I think the best part is the realization that when I do "pick me" I get the training and experience to get "A-team" experienced down the line. There is no more wait... jump in.

    2. Mary, I accidentily deleted your comment. I am so sorry. So, I reposted it from the email version.
      I am glad for you it sounds like something very exciting! Email me and let me know what is going on. Thanks, Jim