People often worry about circumstances out of
their control. Worrying used to be one of my “other jobs.” Over the years, I
have battled with creating “what if” scenarios and nearly every time
the situation I feared- never happened. Slowly, I’ve realized spending time
and energy by focusing on “what if” is a monumental loss of productivity and
growth.
In A.A.meetings, one of the common slogans is “Let go and Let God.” Carrying worries,
resentment and grudges not only lessons your chance of sobriety; it prevents
one from moving forward with growth, opportunity and spirituality. The biggest
factors most people find troubling are jobs, relationships and money. Mentally
beating yourself-up over something that may never happen is never a solution.
Even if our worst fear becomes reality wouldn’t we
be better served to focus on a solution after
it transpires? Planning ahead for a possible catastrophe is foolish. By responding
in this negative manner you are placing yourself as a “victim” with your mind
and actions. Conditioning yourself to this attitude devalues your self-esteem, opens
yourself up for easy defeat and guarantees failure.
Obsessing over negative situations should be
replaced by focusing on changing the things you can make a difference with the
outcome. Instead of being “stuck” inside your own prison walls, focus on doing
something to help someone else. Checkout of the pity-party and lift your spirit
up by doing something inspirational and motivational. If we spent half of the
time doing something positive, instead of negative; our jobs, relationships and
financial situations would improve immensely.
Worrying give us the excuse to do nothing. We sabotage ourselves due to
fear. After all, worry is nothing but fear. It’s that little voice of resistance in our head attempting to
stop you from doing great work, urging you to stay with the status quo and
never venture outside the hut.
Several years ago, I was looking at the
possibility of having lung cancer. After a botched biopsy procedure, I had to
have major surgery to remove tissue for another biopsy. My time wasn’t focused
on worrying if I had cancer or not. My concern was for my wife and would she
have the financial stability to live without me?
Once those
fears were resolved I was completely at peace with myself situation and God.
Now, one
would reason having a terminal illness would send someone over the cliff with
worry and fear. Especially me, I am a master of worry. I learned it’s the little
things in life that keeps us in fear and prevents us from doing what we were
put on this Earth to do. The big obstacles usually take care of themselves.
Trust me, it’s true.
More importantly, it’s the wisdom to know the
difference!
Until
We Meet Again,
Jim Carver
Jim Carver
Author: The Legacy of David A. Wells- The Lexington High School
“Band of Gold”
Something Meaningful that Matters!
www.successthroughmusic.com
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